Monday, March 31, 2008

Marketing Gimmicks

How many of us have been tricked into buying something by a marketing gimmick? Many of us I am sure (raises hand). How many of us have been on the other side of the coin and have written marketing copy that does this tricking? (Again raises hand.) I have tricked and been tricked. I have been guilty of making an event sound more fun than it really probably is. But that was my job.

What I have to watch out for is being tricked into buying something or signing up for something on the Internet that I don't really want. Or not really understanding the terms for a free trial period and then being stuck with the product or going through gyrations to get a refund. And that is not fun and a time waster.

Daisy Pulled It Out Again

I like Daisy on Rock of Love and I do think she is Bret's favorite. She survived the cut again last night. He is concerned as he thinks she is not as transparent as she needs to be with her personal life. She is still living with her ex boyfriend, for example, but she says they are just friends. I can understand his concern up to a point. But on the other hand, has he been transparent about his life with her? Probably not. In the real world, I would say I don't have to be transparent with you until we are exclusive. Until Bret picks her. Then it is another story.

Sunday, March 30, 2008

For My Dad--the Man Who Has Everything

Father's Day is still a little while off, but my dad is the type who has everything he needs, so buying gifts for him is challenging. I am a good gift giver, however, so I am always on the lookout for interesting and unexpected ideas and have fun coming up with something unusual. Photography is one of his hobbies, and he likes to travel, so I thought I might get him a travel photo vest. I found one on a website that I really like. Not only is it really neat looking, but it has 20 pockets for your stuff! You could load up on everything you need for your adventure. This same website has a lot of SWAT gear for sale, which he might enjoy too. He might have fun with some of their gear, such as the tactical shirts, pants, or footwear. They also have a section of tactical wear for women too, so I might even buy something for myself. Their polo shirts look nice!

Megan Leaves Rock of Love

Last week, Megan was voted off the Rock of Love. Her tour stopped there. To be honest, I was glad. Like Bret says, her expression never changes (except when she was crying over her old boyfriend.) And that perpetual smile was getting tiresome. Obviously so fake. It would be hard to trust her--you wouldn't ever really know what was on her mind. It took her forever to leave the set when he told her. Obviously, it came out of left field to her. It will be interesting to see what happens tonight. But why is Heather on the show to help Bret choose between the women when she herself is interested in him? Maybe to be close to him, or does she just need a gig? My guilty pleasure with reality TV is getting way out of hand.

Plastics Recycling Is Important

Remember the movie The Graduate? And the best line from the movie--when a family friend leans over to the character played by Dustin Hoffman and says to him, "Let me just tell you one word: plastics." That was great. It was a funny line and indicative of how the plastics industry was growing at that time. Nowadays, the plastics recycling program is also growing in a very healthy way.

I am glad to hear this, because I am afraid with school I have slacked off in my recycling efforts. We also don't have our curbside program anymore. I know there are some neighborhood collection sites, so I will have to resume my recycling by taking my plastic items there.

Apparently part of the growth in plastics recycling is coming through corporations and their purchasing preference policies, and the number of end uses for recycled plastics is also increasing, which adds to the demand. HDPE Granules are used in many packaging applications (snack food wrappers, cereal box liners, and margarine tubs) and are an easy and a popular item to recycle.

Friday, March 28, 2008

Oh, These are the Kardashians

I kept seeing on the TV menu the show Keeping Up With the Kardashians, and wondered who they were and why we should be keeping up with them. But I wasn't really interested enough to investigate. Until one day, the show was just on and I started watching it--the whole marathon. It is really pretty good. The Kardashian brood is the ex-wife and the children of the Kardashian guy who was O.J. Simpson's lawyer, who is now dead. What a great looking guy he was! The ex-wife is attractive too, so the children are beautiful. The ex-wife is now married to Bruce Jenner, that one time Olympic hunk. The show is really pretty good. They were on Larry King tonight and I will be on the lookout for more episodes. Just more evidence of my addiction to reality tv.

Reclaiming the Holidays

As much as I love law school, I will also be glad when it is over. For one reason, for the past several years, I feel that I have barely celebrated Christmas and other holidays. I love the holidays--I love putting up a Christmas tree, buying presents, and sending out Christmas cards. I like a real tree, but I haven't had time to get one so had to put up a fake one that has seen better days. I bought Christmas cards this year, but didn't have time to send them out. I thought about sending them out as New Year's cards instead, but that whizzed by me also.

Next year, I am going to go all out. I might send out a holiday photo card. I have never done that--I guess cause I am single, but why not? I found one I really like: Not only does it show a single woman, but it also has a musical theme, and I like that idea.

These Photo Cards can be personalized either by sending the company a photo you want printed directly on one of their holiday cards, or they can craft a custom card for you featuring your company logo or special artwork. It is a perfect way to send an individual message to your loved ones or clients at the holidays.

Wednesday, March 26, 2008

Plastic Surgery Gone Awry

I am not into plastic surgery. I want to look young and look my best, but I stop short of plastic surgery. There are a lot of other things you can do to keep yourself looking your best. (Most of which I am not doing right now because of school but will resume soon.) The photographs of Priscilla Presley's botched facelift reinforce my dislike of plastic surgery. She was a beautiful woman. Why did she feel the need to get those injections? I hope she can get that fixed somehow.

More YouTube

With law school, it is always hard to do the little things that make you happy: read a good book, go on more dates, make time for a manicure, take longer walks, soak in a hot tub. One thing I haven't had much time to do is watch YouTube. I have enjoyed the videos I have seen, and I have heard of a ton more that are hilarious. There is a TubeTilla YouTube Downloader available that is free. You can download videos from YouTube, convert them on the spot, and watch them on a PC, video iPod, PSP, or iPhone. That would make it easy to watch the videos anywhere. Their TubeTilla Pro will also be available April 1. I just downloaded some software and hope to catch a few more smiles from YouTube.

Lobbie Nice But.....

Well, my date zero with lobbie was nice but different. How was it different? Can you say The Secret on Steroids? Nice looking guy, but sort of manic. He brought up The Secret, which is something I am trying to follow. Basically, the Laws of Attraction--think positive thoughts and positive things will come to you. You attract what you think. I was happy when he brought up The Secret. Neat, I thought. But he went way past that, on some kind of ultra new age trip to the moon. I think he must have an addictive personality--some things he said indicated that. It brought me back to another old maxim --moderation in all things--even in good things such as The Secret. Even that can become too much.

Cloud on Property

When you buy a house or a piece of land, the last thing you want is a cloud on the title. (I have learned all about this in law school!) You want to make sure the title is clean, and that there is no defect--such as a minor or a person of unsound mind signed the deed, or that one was signed out of fraud or duress, or that there are unknown heirs waiting in the wing to claim the property. The best advice is to use a title company, which can insure the owner and the lender against any possible claims arising out of the deed.

Find a Title Company Near Your Home by clicking on the link. You can search for companies based on such things as if they do online closings and extended hours. I looked on the site and found 46 companies near my zipcode!

I know when I buy a new date-licious home (hopefully sooner than later)I will certainly use a title company!

Saturday, March 22, 2008

Date Zero With New Lobbie

I have a date zero with a new lobbie tomorrow night. It is Easter night, but I think that will be OK. We are going to a fairly nice restaurant. I had just suggested a drink, but at going to this restaurant, we will probably have dinner. His photos on match look nice, he seems successful, and close to his family. All good signs on the front end. Wish me luck!

Pool Wear

As I mentioned in a previous post, I am a water baby. I love being by the water--whether pool, lake, or ocean. Our family has a pool, and we also have a beach condo. And I like to go on other beach vacations as well, so I get to wear a lot of bathing suits. It is not always comfortable or appropriate to walk around in your bathing suit, so I discovered sarongs a while back. Not only are they easy to put on over your bathing suit and take a stroll or run to the market without changing out of your suit, but they are also usually pretty and sexy! I have enjoyed wearing both long and short sarongs.

I found some wonderful Hawaiian sarongs that are not as expensive as some others I have seen, and they have same day shipping. The styles are very nice, with painted images or pretty embroidery. I particularly like this one. I think I would look darn good wearing it!

Friday, March 21, 2008

Online Dating: Small World

I don't visit the the dating site often because it is just too cumbersome to me. You have to do all of that back and forth with questions and what not, and it requires you to make the first move sometimes in showing interest. I just do not do that! I like the man to make the first move because, well who just wants to waste the time if a man is not interested in you enough to contact you first! But for some reason, I did log on to chemistry the other night and had a surprise. My newest match is not only a former co-worker of mine, but was married to another former co-worker of mine. I knew he was remarried, but didn't know he was divorced again???? Oh well, doesn't matter. Nice guy, but I was never interested in him that way.

Conference Fun

Some people have told me they dread going to conferences and meetings. Not me! I love going to conferences where you actually learn something worthwhile and meet interesting people. In my previous job, I went to two kinds of conferences: one where I was covering the subject matter for my magazine. I was there as a reporter and gathering information. The second were editors' conferences where we would discuss how to better handle writing and editing challenges encountered in our daily work life, such as better ways to meet deadlines, work with freelancers, deal with unreasonable bosses, etc.

Both types of conferences were great--even though they were very different. But what was the same in both situations was that we would be sitting for long periods of time. All day, sometimes several days in a row. So you want comfortable chairs.

Burgess Furniture offers some great looking furniture for conferences and banquets. I particularly like their Salon, Vario, and Fiora chairs. Very classy, and they have great colors. The neat thing about those kind of chairs is that they are engineered to be more comfortable, which is appreciated during those meetings! Their Website is very nice and colorful and gives information on all of their products. Burgess Furniture is a
contract furniture manufacturer and supplier that also offers furniture for hire.

Thursday, March 20, 2008

Body Beautiful #5--Water Water Everywhere

I admit it, I am a water baby. I love swimming, playing in the ocean, and boating on the lake. I also like to drink water, but have fallen down on my daily intake lately. Not sure why that is, but I am avowing to get back on the stick with that. I drink lots and lots of coffee and also like an occasional glass of wine (or two). And that dehyrdates one. So I am trying to build back up to my 8 glasses of water a day. Right now, I probably don't drink more than 3 or 4, and I think my skin is not looking so good. So I am going to enact remedy H20.

Dangerous Weight

Weight obsession is such an odd thing in our culture today. On one hand, there are some people, particularly women, who starve themselves to be thin. On the other hand, there is such an obesity problem. Flip sides of a coin. Some people are so overweight it is dangerous. I have two good friends who must weigh at least 400 pounds, maybe more. (And I know of other people in like condition.) My heart aches for them. I know as they age, they probably won't live very long. They both already have serious health problems. I know at least one of them has looked into laparoscopic surgery or the LAP-BAND system. It is performed on an outpatient basis and seems safer than the gastric bypass operation. There is less impact on your anatomy and fewer complications. The central florida lapband Website offers a lot of information on their program, including how to decide if laparoscopic surgery is right for you, how to prepare for the surgery, and support.

A Sly Look

I was studying in Panera Bread the other day--decked out with laptop, notes, etc. and a man was looking for a place to sit. He looked around and then chose the table next to me. As time went on, he made small talk with me and seemed approachable. He might have been married--I am not sure. I couldn't see his ring finger. But he was cute, and he looked interesting. And he looked interested in me, which was nice. I haven't gotten a lot of male attention lately, and I feel sometimes as if I am invisible to men. It was nice that he clarified that that isn't so.

Getting in the Game Mood

Playing games are not only fun, but sometimes they are good for the pocketbook. Recently I have been in the mood for online games (maybe as a break from my law studies--hopefully not just a distraction.) I am a good speller, so there is one game out there where you do a spelling game for prizes. I don't have a lot of time to play, but have found a minute here or there.

Now I have discovered another neat game you get clues and compete to find the answer. Some of their categories are "Who Am I?" "Where in the World?" and "Living Thing." Players get clues and make guesses until someone guesses correctly. In one of their recent contents, someone only made 24 guesses to get the correct answer which was African Grey Parrot or psittacus erithacus and won $200!

These online contests may be the trick to getting my budget in order!

Monday, March 17, 2008

The New Bachelor

OK, break out the drinks--the new Bachelor show started tonight. I don't know what is so compelling about these shows, except it is a guilty pleasure and peek into the dating habits of others. I know women (including me) who watch the show and do a play by play as if it were a football game. Did you hear what she said? Could you believe she was all over him like that? At the very least, you can garner a few gems about what works and what doesn't work around men. Like the woman who put her underwear under the bachelor's pants tonight--that just didn't work.

Happy Camper

The only time in my life I have camped in a tent was when I dated the love of my life. (Yes, sadly it didn't work out.) He was an outdoorsman, and I went with him and his friends on numerous occasions to a lovely spot in the North Carolina hills. I would have no idea where to find it again, but I do know it was not that far from Asheville, so you know it is a gorgeous area. We camped in a tent and lived the rustic life with outhouse and all. We also camped once on a beach on a Georgia island until news of a possible hurricane made the rangers shoo us back to the mainland. I still keep up with my ex, and I know he still camps. He has nice equipment, so I am sure he has Caravan Insurance.

Personally, I am more of the chalet type, and will be joining some friends in the next few weeks for a weekend in a lovely chalet in the Smoky Mountains, a national park. The chalets are privately owned, and you can rent them out. Some are very luxurious and quite expensive, so I know they must be well covered by insurance.

Some other friends of mine travel all over the world and spend a lot of time in Scotland, often camping in a tent. I hope to join them someday, and will let them know of the benefits of this coverage. Like anything else, you can enjoy yourself more if you know you are covered in case of loss.

Sunday, March 16, 2008

Rock of Love

I have been watching Rock of Love every week. I really like it, but am not sure if part of the reason I like it is that I found out that Brett Michaels is from Pittsburgh. One of my favorite cities. I think I like him better because I know he is a fellow Pennsylvanian. Go Steelers! Tonight, Kristy Joe left of her own accord. That put Megan in a difficult position. She got to stay only because Kristy Joe left. So Megan really should have left for her own good. Who wants to stay when you are in such a down position? But maybe the competitive spirit kicks in and you can't make a good decision at that point for the life of you. You want to win even though you know you won't.

Watch Web on Your TV

When The Secret video was released, it first appeared on the Web. I was anxious to watch it, as many other people were. I am spiritual, and am interested in the Laws of Attraction, the subject of The Secret. The LOA are simply that you attract what you think. If you think negative thoughts, you attract negative things. If you think positive thoughts, you attract positive things. I know I can watch such videos on my laptop, but that seems awkward. Laptops and computers in general work well, in my opinion, with short videos, but not with long videos or movies. So I was glad to hear about the the Web to TV Play the web on your TV, which allows you to watch videos on your TV. That would be great not only for videos you want to watch yourself, but for larger groups, such as families or gatherings of friends. Acquiring the software is easy. You can surf the Web on your laptop, and then with a click on your mouse, watch your selection on your TV! While watching your selection, you can continue to surf the Web for the next item you want to watch. This would have been helpful as a lot of my friends and I want to attract our soulmate, our love, and we could have watched The Secret as a group. This is a perfect example of how computers, which tend to isolate individuals from each other, are going to evolve to let us use them in more social settings.

Friday, March 14, 2008

My Very Happy Birthday

I admit I am a birthday person. I love to celebrate my birthday (even though I am to the point I don't like saying the age). I also love celebrating others' birthdays. Even as an adult, your birthday is YOUR DAY! I have been blessed this year with a lot of nice attention for my birthday. Some friends took me out last weekend, and another friend took me out tonight. My parents took me out on my actual birthday. They had a health scare recently and are now doing well, so that is an extra special birthday present for me.

I Know How Important Insurance Is

A couple of events in the last couple of years have made me a firm believer in insurance. And being covered more than adequately. First a water leak in the condo above me made appreciative that I had plenty of homeowner's insurance. Then a really bad car wreck (my fault, but no one was hurt) made me oh so happy about my wonderful car insurance and agent. At work, we well covered by business insurance. It is so easy these days to compare prices through online insurance quotes. If you know you are covered by insurance, you won't get wrinkles from worrying about how to pay for catastrophes!

Body Beautiful #4--More Frequent Haircuts

I know how important a good hair cut is, and many years ago I found a great stylist. My type of hair is difficult to cut well, and when I found a good stylist, I knew better than to ever let him go! For many years to save money, however, I have only gotten my hair cut about every six weeks. I am rethinking that and wanting to get it cut more often. My friends tell me that the ends look better and healthier after a cut. The problem is, he is so booked up, it is hard to see him more often. I did talk him into letting me come every five weeks now. Maybe I can work on him about coming every four! I am in a better position now to spend the extra money and guess my perspective has changed to consider it worth it now.

AU Pairs Make Life Easy

My friend Carey lives an exciting life. She has had a great career, married an interesting man, and they have been successful. And they are international. Meaning they not only travel extensively overseas, but they also have an international outlook. I can't tell you how many times they have rented apartments in Paris for six months at a time or taken extensive trips. Makes me drool! (My secret wish has been to meet a man with whom I could have this same kind of life!)

So I was not surprised when they hired an au pair AuPairCare when their daughter was born about 12 years ago. The au pair was from Germany and lived with them, traveled with them on trips, and became part of the family. Carey raved about how great she was and how she made life easy by helping out with those first few erratic baby years. Carey knew her daughter was in good hands, since the au pairs are trained in baby care, first aid, and infant CPR. They didn't have to fool with hiring babysitters. And since they appreciate the international scene, Carey and her husband were excited to have their daughter exposed to other cultures in her very young formative years.

Thursday, March 13, 2008

When a Lobster Gets Impatient

I know that encourages you to say "not interested" when you aren't, but most people are not going to do that. First of all, it would be considered rude, and secondly, I for one am not on top of things enough to be able to figure that out quickly. There are some people I immediately know I am not interested in, but in most cases, that does not happen quickly for me. I don't have the time to read everyone's profile that closely. A lobbie has emailed me three times, each time getting a little more impatient that I haven't responded. I don't know about you, but that is a turn off to me. I think he will just have to cool his heels. At this point, I have already labeled him as impatient, so I don't think anything good is to come from me answering him. He will get over it.

Very Handy Phone

Back when I was doing marathons (and walking them, I might add), I was always very conscious of what paraphernalia I needed to take on the training walks with me. With marathons, you are on a training schedule where you increase the lengths of the runs/walks as you get closer to the race. When you are out there walking for upwards of one hour (two hours, three hours, four hours, maybe even five hours) you need to take some stuff with you. When I am out there that long walking around, I need to have tunes, a phone, snacks, and water to drink. A sweater if it is cold. Yadda, yadda, yadda. So I would be walking around with a pack full of things, and that can weigh you down.

Now today, if I were training for a marathon (and I do hope to do at least one more) I would look into buying a new phone such as the M800 cell phone (Buy the M800 at )that is really a cell phone and watch in one. (You need a good watch, because as the hours roll by, you really need to know the exact time!)

It just boggles my mind what the M800 will do. It has an MP3/MP4 player, with bluetooth stereo headset, and it is also a speaker phone. It has a touchscreen, the Internet, an alarm, and anything you want, basically! Plus it tells time.

I just can't tell you how much this would enhance marathon training and a marathon itself. Music is very important to me, and with this watch, I could listen to the tunes that would make the time fly by. And it would certainly cut down on the paraphernalia I would need.

Wednesday, March 12, 2008

Scoping Out a Party

My schedule with law school and work is a little easier this week (having just had the last in a series of 4 tests)so I decided to run by a party I was invited to last night. I was really looking forward to it. Who knows, I could meet someone! Nice idea, but it turned out not to be that kind of party. It was related to an upcoming fundraiser, and only the people involved were invited. I had a good time. Good food, good wine, good cause. But most of the single men were gay! Slim pickins. Oh well--up and attem.

Costume Fun

St. Patrick's Day is one of my favorite holidays. I don't know if it is the Irish in me, but I love the green beer and the Irish tunes and the fun and frivolity. As Irish luck would have it, I got an invitation today to a St. Patrick's Day party. And it is from a guy known to have some of the best parties in town! (I may not get to go though, as a friend from high school will be in town and expects me to do something with her. I don't know if she will want to go to a big party where she doesn't know anyone else.) But I will kiss the Blarney Stone and hope for the best.

Most of the time I don't see people wearing costumes to St. Patrick's Day parties, but my invite suggests that we do. I am not good at coming up with costumes on my own, so I was looking on the Web for ideas. I found a great place where I can order a costume. Since I am looking for love, maybe I should go for the Luscious Leprechaun outfit from Or there is also a great looking Beer Garden girl outfit. (It looks more Bavarian than Irish, but it will work for St. Patrick's Day. Who's quibbling when there is lots of beer involved?) I could get a green wig that would go with either outfit, and it would be a smash.

The site also has some wonderful Adult Halloween Costumes and outfits perfect for other occasions. I love the adult Greek Goddess outfit they sell, and I would feel so good wearing it. The Michael Myers one is soooo scary.

But as to this coming weekend: Irish Eyes are smiling!

Tuesday, March 11, 2008

Cougar Girl

Cougar Girl may be one way of describing me because of my clothes. I love animal prints and wear them often! I love them, and people who know and love me make little kitty noises when I am around. I adore them when they do that.

I know that the term Cougar Girl is also used for a older woman dating a younger man. I think it came from that reality show where the man in his 30s had to choose between women in their 40s and women in their 20s.

I have always liked men my age or a little older to be honest. But I have met one man about 10 years younger and we hit it off well. We have only talked twice at parties, but it was great! I don't know if we would hit it off, but at least the friend chemistry is there.

I was at a dinner party the other night where this man's name came up. Our mutual friend said she would like to find someone for him to date, but that he was too young for us. I said 10 years is really not that much of big deal now. She looked at me quizzically, and some of the other people seemed to think that such a match (they weren't talking about me in particular) would not work. That really bothered me to tell the truth. My feeling is--let the people themselves decide. Meow!

Spreading the Word

In navigating the online quest for love, and also as a writer, I would love my blog to reach the greatest number of people who are also searching for love online. I would also like to hear back from others about their experiences in the dating world. As a newbie blogger, I still need all the help I can get to get my blog noticed. I signed up with Buzzfuse today, which helps creative types get their works noticed. Buzzfuse releases each item you produce to whatever market you choose, and then measures the interaction and generates a score. Higher scoring items get lots of notice. It is way to not only get notice for your blog, or photos, or music, but also a way to make money from your creations.

Body Beautiful #3--Bath Salt Soak

There is nothing more relaxing than soaking in a hot tub full of bath salts. In my quest to reinvigorate and pamper myself, I thought that would be my next purchase. I think salts really do relax you, but whether it is fact or just suggestion, I do feel relaxed after using them. I recently bought a new kind--white tea bath salts. I know white tea is good for you to drink, so I thought it probably is also good for your skin. The packaging didn't say much, except that it helps detox your skin. That sounded good to me, so I bought some and ran home to try it. The effect was great--it relieved my stress and I slept so good afterwards (for the couple hours of shuteye I got w/studying but therapeutic nonetheless!).

Monday, March 10, 2008

Blogging is Delightful!

I am sitting here in my jammies, all bleary eyed from class and not getting enough sleep. It is tough to work full time and also to be in law school full time. But I am doing it and loving it. Most of the time. Right now I could use some sleep.

So why am I writing in my blog rather than getting some Zs? I have discovered blogging and love it. I just can't stay away from my laptop and now my blog! It has become almost like a friend.

And now it is going to help me earn money! I am so excited. I work full time and make a fairly good salary, but school and all of its trappings is expensive. I will be taking the bar exam (hopefully) in July and while I am doing the bar review beforehand, I will have reduced work hours (and will not be working at all during the couple of weeks before the exam) so I could use some extra money to tide me over during that time. That is pretty much as far ahead as I am looking. But after the bar exam, I would like to use the extra money to shore up my emergency fund and then to start a fund for a downpayment on a house.

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Sunday, March 9, 2008

Body Beautiful #2--Exfoliating

When I went to get my manicure and pedicure the other day, the women doing my nails, while she was massaging my legs, said my skin felt dry there. I probably don't drink enough water, which would be a cause of dehydration (going to work on that) but I also thought maybe I should start exfoliating. I got some olive oil skin exfoliant, and and using it about every other time I get in the bath. For the next little while, it does seem to make my skin softer there. I am hoping to make this a part of my regular routine.

Saturday, March 8, 2008

You Are Who You Date

I read an interesting article yesterday about a premise I had heard before: That who you date is a reflection of who you are. Not in the superficial sense, such as you date a rich man so you must be a gold digger. No, deeper. Like you are dating who you are. Sounds complicated maybe, but I think it has merit. Like I keep dating commitmentphobes, when in fact I have been unsure of settling down myself. If you are a nester, that is who you are looking for and who will come into your sphere. The woman who is not yet separated, and she attracts people who are also not available. And on and on. Another argument for the laws of attraction.

Thursday, March 6, 2008

Body Beautiful #1--Manicure/Pedicure

I enjoy being fit and attractive, but I am far from that right now. Four years of law school (plus being four years older) has taken a toll on my beauty routine and waistline. Although I am not too far from final exams and graduation and then a nosedive into the bar, I am determined I am not going to wait any longer to get my groove back. I want to be a body beautiful again. So I am going to report my little snippets at getting back into shape. My first effort was a week ago when I had my first manicure and pedicure in about a year! I had promised myself last year that I would treat myself to a manicure at least once a month, but that went by the wayside. I picked out a fun color--pink margarita--and it looks great on me. What was wonderful was the feeling of pampering myself. It is good to do something femmy and pretty.

Wednesday, March 5, 2008

Online Dating in Class

People get restless in class, and although we should be sitting there rapt by the black letter law, sometimes it just can't be done. Our building is wireless and many people have laptops, so the inevitable happens: People surf the net.

I am guilty. Sometimes I just have to check my email or one of my favorite Websites. But I refuse to go to an online dating site during class. The main reason being that people behind me would see me doing it. And I couldn't bear the snickers. I know, because people in front of me have done this, and I have been guilty about gossiping about it. Just the other night, a woman was emailing people on an online dating site and several people were aware of this and razzed her about it later on. But she is one of the top people in our class, and I guess she can do what she wants! She probably already knows all of the material!

Monday, March 3, 2008

FaveGuy Reappears

Here was a big surprise. The first man I met on was FaveGuy. Fell head over heels with him. Smart, cute, funny. He had it all. And oh yeah, was kind of a user and irresponsible. I couldn't believe it. He really wasn't the man I fell for. (That is one of the dangers of online dating, or really dating in general--you think someone is one way and fall for them, only to find out they are not that way at all!)

I would get mad and we would have words. He would always know what to say. He moved away. I was glad. Out of sight, out of mind. Put it all behind me.

I have been doing The Secret, aka, the Laws of Attraction. One of the things I have been willing my way is my love, my soulmate, my future husband.

Who contacts me? FaveGuy. Says he might be moving back to town and if he did, would I see him?

I should have said no. I should have ignored his email. But I said yes. Maybe I am really stupid. But there has been enough distance, time and geographic wise, that I think I can see him more as a friend. At least I won't get caught up in it again. At least maybe thinking he will be moving back to town will inspire me to finally lose the weight I need to lose.

No More Mr. NiceGuy?

I still haven't heard from NiceGuy--you know I mentioned he didn't do anything for me on Valentine's Day. Not that I really was expecting anything, but it would have gotten him some points! As I said before, we have had fun, but I don't feel any romance between us, and guys are quick to bail in situations like that. To be honest, I go for more of an alpha type male, and he just isn't one. I don't mean he is feminine, but there is not enough alpha in the mix there. Maybe why there was no romance. Oh well. Nice guy though still. Maybe we can be friends. I'll mull that over.