The Problem With Chemistry

I am honored to be a lifetime (free) member of chemistry.com, but I have to admit that I don't really like it. I think it is a slow and cumbersome process, and I don't really see the point. Most of us adults are capable of initiating meeting someone on our own, and if we aren't, then that is not a good sign.

This one lobster who initiated the process with me on chemistry, and who at first interested me, has now lost my interest.

I like his looks; according to chemistry we are compatible; and I guess we liked each others' answers.

So what is the problem? Well, even though he initiated the process, he never initiated an email to me first. BIG MISTAKE.

I guess that was because before I even knew about it, he had "archived me," which is code word for that he had closed out our match, and I couldn't email him even if I wanted to do.

I only found out about this when I got an email from chemistry saying that this duded had "unarchived" me, code word for what ever other relationship he was intersted in hadn't worked out, and that "I am free to contact him at any time."

Um...no thanks.

Rock On!

The second series of Rock of Love started tonight and I am glad I caught it. I was surfing with the remote, and just happened to stumble across it. Last season, I didn't start watching it until well into the series so didn't know all the nuances.

This is another bachelor type program, this time with Bret Michaels of Poison fame. I never listened to Poison, but I do like that well-known song of his that he has played on the series--"Every Rose Has a Thorn." It is really beautiful.

On first glimpse, these girls seem more classy in general than last season. But I am sure they will show prove me wrong. One girl who was going to receive a pass tonight from Bret offered to go home because she was having bad anxiety. That opened up a spot for another woman.

I have to admit that I was surprised when Jess, whom Bret chose last season, later broke it off. She was pretty cool, but I guess I can see her doing that.

I will write more about the show as the series progresses (and if I get to see it.)

What I really want to know is what is with the scarf that he always wears? Does he ever not wear it?

Heard that Bret is coming to the Wildhorse in Nashville on March 7.

Second Date Good Too

I had a second date with the man I mentioned a few days ago. It was good too! It has been a while since I have had a second date with anyone. Usually, when I meet someone on a blind date, from online, it is pretty obvious from the get-go that there is no chemistry between us and we are not a good match. I leave thinking, well that was OK, but not a basis for a dating relationship. Except for the doctor, when I thought, good riddance!

This new guy and I seem to have a lot in common and can talk a storm. We seem to be compatible in our political and religious stances. Unbelievable in this town, where every guy on match.com seems to be a conservative!

He even said that he likes to read and watch things "on the edge." OOoh! So do I! I am not sure I said that to him though--I was too surprised to answer.

The only negative thing is that right now I don't have the hots for him. In other words, I am not primed to jump his bones! Maybe that will come though. Right now I am just kind of excited to find someone who fits my mental chemistry.

How to Move Forward

I read an article online this past week about how a woman in her 40s had just lost 20 pounds and was concerned that she was still single. It made me think about how easy we think things should be once you have hit a goal like that. Such as in, I have lost some weight--why is my life still the same?

The article went on to say that she had never had a good relationship, only those in which she had felt like she was being used.

The woman who responded to her question suggested that she in fact had made a lot of headway toward finding a good relationship--that you learn from every relationship, good and bad, and that it moves you toward what you ultimately want.

I think this is very good advice and in fact what I have been trying to concentrate on for some time.

A Better Date

I had a date zero with a guy last week that was actually very good! On email, he was witty, and he was in person as well! He seemed interested in me, asked good questions, and seemed respectful of my limited time due to school and work. We had fun, we laughed, and enjoyed a good dinner. He is nice looking too. I don't know that he is my dream date, but he wants to go out again, and all I can say at this point is that I am looking forward to it.

Watch this space!