So much has happened in the last week--Obama is the dem nominee, bar review is continuing, and I have had a couple of DZs, or date zeros.
Although, I am not sure much has changed there. I'll talk about the first one in this post and the other one in a later post.
I had high hopes for the first one. He works at the same large place that I used to (we did not know each other there) and we have much in common. We had a mix up in day--we discussed meeting both sat and sun, and when the conversation was over, I thought we were meeting on sun and he thought sat. So, he called me on sat, after he arrived at the restaurant, and we quickly realized our mistake. So we went the next day.
He was nice and I could see myself liking him. I would like to have him as a friend even if it didn't work out romantically. He picked up the check, walked me to my car, but then said something about wanting to talk on down the road after the bar exam. I thought that sounded like he wasn't interested. I decided to wait a week and then email him to see if he might want to meet for a glass of wine in the next couple of weeks, in my effort to be friends instead.
He wrote back and said not right now because he thinks he is making a connection with someone else he met online. My first reaction is that this is a rejection---after talking with someone about it, I see that it is wrong to see it as a rejection. He may in fact want to be friends. When it comes to dating, I tend to see things through a defeated filter when I don't need to. I am better than I used to be, but I still need to do some work in this area.