How Soon Do You Ask A Guy If He Is Married?

I found this great article online today: http://www.cnn.com/2010/LIVING/personal/01/20/rr.dating.question.or.trust/index.html?hpt=Sbin

It points out how you might want to ask a man if he is married before you get too excited about him. But then it also asks the question, how soon is too soon to ask such a question?

I generally don't like to ask such questions. After all, if a man seems interested in me, is asking me all kinds of questions, wouldn't he be single? Why would he waste his time on me like that if he is not available?

The problem there is that I am superimposing my thinking on him. If I were not available, I wouldn't waste all of that time asking a stranger so many questions. Why bother? I have too many other things to do with my time.

I found out the hard way last year on a cruise. We weren't five minutes out of port, when a man glommed himself onto me. I mean glommed. It was like he couldn't live without me--someone he didn't know five minutes before. "Let's have dinner; let's have drinks. You can check your email on my computer. I can quiz you on that test you are going to have when you get back."

Huh? He was like on overdrive. At dinner, he wanted to know every aspect of my life...every little detail. I just assumed he was single and getting to know me. Wrong. At the end of the evening, when we walked to the elevator, I happened to ask him if he was going to the singles event the next day. "I can't; I'm not single," he replied. "You're not!" I said. I didn't even have to say anymore. He bolted away, and the next day and for the rest of the week on the cruise, he was always on the arm of another woman who wasn't his wife.

Finding Love On The Road

This is my dream come true. Wish it could happen for me. Sigh.

http://www.cnn.com/2009/TRAVEL/12/10/romance.on.the.road/index.html

I Am A Mad Men Fanatic

As I am watching this week's installment of Mad Men on On Demand, I am again transported. Transported back to the 60s, when work such as advertising was glamorous, women were gaining a foothold in the business world (but not enough) but there was also still discrimination against blacks and women. Jon Hamm is such a hunk. He almost makes all the negatives worthwhile. Like the cheating. But the little vignettes where his wife Betty is role playing. Is she complicit in his cheating? If you don't follow what I am saying, you must catch up on your Mad Men watching.

Beach Vacay Is Success

I just returned from a week at Destin, thanks to my parents. They let me stay at their condo in Destin. I invited two friends, and we had a blast. Not only did we grow up together, but we have common problems today. So it made for a great bonding week. We ate, we swam, we talked, we watched chick flicks. We will be friends forever. And we will be there for each other forever. And we will go to the beach again. Where I am reborn.

Help For Transferring Files

I don't know how many times a day we have trouble transferring a file at work. Granted, we have some of the older type computer equipment and such. But it has been hard. Occasionally, one of our clients has even mentioned that they might have to go elsewhere, if transferring files continues to be such a problem. That is never good. We need to be better at this if we want to keep our clients and grow our business. There is some new file tranfer software that makes this task much easier. I am going to suggest that we look into it. It is time that we upgrade and add to our equipment. This is not the time to get behind in something like this. Especially in our business.

Should I Mac or Windows?

I really love blogging and am planning to do more in the way of blogs and websites. I will need to get a new computer soon and have some major thinking to do. I started off with a Mac. Then our whole workplace switched to Windows. Except for a couple of our designers who kept the Macs. And that is when all the trouble started. You know--the hardship when you go between the two. So now I am used to Windows. But the Macs are so neat. And if I get one but have to work with people who have the other, what am I to do? Especially since I am working on my own now and don't have a whole IT crew at my fingertips like I used to. I may try to find solutions at appletalk problems. There is some software that lets you go back and forth with ease. That is what we should have had all along. Why do computer people make these so hard?

Wanting To Go To The UK

I have not seen Gerry for a while--he was my long distance English beau for a while--but we have started corresponding again. We had kind of a rough patch and didn't speak to each other for quite some time. I cut off the communication. But one time on a visit to see my sister and her kids, my nephew had on the shirt that Gerry had brought him when he had come to the states. Seeing that shirt made me cry and realize how much I miss Gerry. And that I am sorry we parted on bad terms. I don't know that we will ever date again, but I would like to keep in touch with him. Just for fun, I was looking up Manchester Hotels and found some websites for hotels over there. There is some good competitive pricing.

If I go to Manchester, I'd have to see Gerry of course. But I would also want to go to London, some small towns, and into Scotland. I might even see Ireland if I have time. This trip would be good for me--not only to renew my friendship with Gerry but to get the cobwebs out of my head. I have too many cobwebs in my head from studying for the bar exam, and the only antidote I know of is international travel! That will do the trick. And renewing friendships and maybe making some new ones along the way too will help as well.