I Am Breaking Up With a Message Board

Yes, I am breaking up with a dating message board that I have been a part of for a while. But don't worry--I have a couple of other dating message boards in the wing.

It is a sign of our times and our technology. We become members of a cyber community and get involved. Sometimes too involved. We have never met these people, but we let them get under our skin.

This board is a private board and you have to be admitted. And there comes the price. If you step out of line, they bite you. We have moderators, but they do nothing to moderate when their "friends" get out of line. I suggested that the moderators do something, and they said no. They want a board with no rules, but the funny part is they have plenty of rules. They just don't admit it.

I think because of this they have decided they don't like me. They tend not to respond to my messages anymore. I can't deny it hurts. But how stupid, as this is just a message board! I am not part of their group. And that really is OK, because if this were in real life, I think a lot of them are younger than me, and they are not the people I would want to hang with or get advice from. There are several other people in my position with this board. We just keep trying, and they just keep not caring.

Not for this chick anymore.

No Valentines

Well, it was a little depressing again this year on February 14--no Valentines. At least from the man category. I always get a Valentine from one of my best friends and her family. It cheers me up beyond belief! It is so sweet.

I wasn't sure if I would get any Valentines from NiceGuy that I have gone out with a few times. I was thinking not, as we had only gone out four times and there were pretty big spaces in between the dates (my fault with my school and test schedule).

Even though I figured we were not close enough for him to do something for me for Valentine's Day, I have to admit it bothered me. I take it as a sign that he is not really interested in me, and I will start putting my sights elsewhere. That is OK, as he was fun to be with, but I felt no chemistry with him.

Online Dating Shocker!

I mentioned here a while back about the lobster on chemistry.com who nicely archived me and then unarchived me? And then I archived him? I couldn't believe how someone would think that that was OK, and that I would still be interested?

Well, it is interesting how things turn out. Got to work today and people were buzzing about a prostitution sting that had occurred in our city about a week ago. I almost didn't pull the article up on the Web, because I thought I wouldn't know any of the guys.

Well I did pull it up, and I was wrong. One of the men arrested was dear Mr. Archive from chemistry.com! I kept looking at the photo and thinking I knew him. I kept thinking, Where do I know him from? And then at lunch, it hit me. He was that guy from chemistry!

I never met him--thank goodness! But I never forget a face. The news article ran his name, age, and the town he was from. I looked up the guy on chemistry, and yes, it was him! Same first name, same age, same town. Then I googled his full name, and he has the same occupation as chemistry guy!

All I can say is, thank goodness we didn't meet!

Another Date With Nice Guy

I have another date this weekend with Nice Guy. He has been very respectful of my busy study time. We are going to breakfast, which will be good, because yes again, I have to spend most of the weekend studying for another test! I still don't feel any sparks, but he is fun to talk with and be around. That counts for a lot. But I don't want to get too settled in yet. I do want spark and want to keep my options open.

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I have watched a few episodes of Millionaire Matchmaker, and what a hoot! Just shows you that even those with money can fall into some bad dating habits.

Chemistry Again

I wrote in my last post how a lobbie had archived me on chemistry.com and then had so graciously unarchived me before I even knew he had archived me. Gee Thanks. I returned the favor by archiving him. Hee.

The Problem With Chemistry

I am honored to be a lifetime (free) member of chemistry.com, but I have to admit that I don't really like it. I think it is a slow and cumbersome process, and I don't really see the point. Most of us adults are capable of initiating meeting someone on our own, and if we aren't, then that is not a good sign.

This one lobster who initiated the process with me on chemistry, and who at first interested me, has now lost my interest.

I like his looks; according to chemistry we are compatible; and I guess we liked each others' answers.

So what is the problem? Well, even though he initiated the process, he never initiated an email to me first. BIG MISTAKE.

I guess that was because before I even knew about it, he had "archived me," which is code word for that he had closed out our match, and I couldn't email him even if I wanted to do.

I only found out about this when I got an email from chemistry saying that this duded had "unarchived" me, code word for what ever other relationship he was intersted in hadn't worked out, and that "I am free to contact him at any time."

Um...no thanks.

Rock On!

The second series of Rock of Love started tonight and I am glad I caught it. I was surfing with the remote, and just happened to stumble across it. Last season, I didn't start watching it until well into the series so didn't know all the nuances.

This is another bachelor type program, this time with Bret Michaels of Poison fame. I never listened to Poison, but I do like that well-known song of his that he has played on the series--"Every Rose Has a Thorn." It is really beautiful.

On first glimpse, these girls seem more classy in general than last season. But I am sure they will show prove me wrong. One girl who was going to receive a pass tonight from Bret offered to go home because she was having bad anxiety. That opened up a spot for another woman.

I have to admit that I was surprised when Jess, whom Bret chose last season, later broke it off. She was pretty cool, but I guess I can see her doing that.

I will write more about the show as the series progresses (and if I get to see it.)

What I really want to know is what is with the scarf that he always wears? Does he ever not wear it?

Heard that Bret is coming to the Wildhorse in Nashville on March 7.